My Girl Bridget Jones under Siege – Aren’t We Better than That?

Comments today about the actress Renee Zellweger appear to be limitless, both in number and cruelty. Apparently, she has taken some actions that have her looking quite different—some say “unrecognizable”—highlighted by her seemingly wrinkle-free poses on the red carpet this week.

Social media has gone hog wild, taking some pretty brutal shots at this woman. The wave of negativity is unhelpful to Zellweger herself and anyone reading it, particularly young people who are still in the process of solidifying self-image and developing ideas on what kind of behavior is ok. Is harsh judgment about appearance and tongue-lashing (or, should I say, keyboard thrashing) what we want kids to emulate?

It’s hard to watch a mob taking swings at a stranger. In our last post tied to Anti-bullying Month, Dr. Philip Brown asserts that, “Adults should prevent bullying behaviors, not model them.” After all, the fight against bullying needs all hands on deck to reduce its harmful effects on our children, he said.

Instead of judging this talented actress on her looks and possible facial modifications, let’s focus on her talents. In the flash of abuse this week, have any of her critics mentioned that she holds the honor of Academy Award-winning actress for her role in Cold Mountain? As a society, let’s not “pile on” and judge—it wastes a lot of time and energy that could be better utilized tackling our world’s challenges (this is something that everyday heroes—people who are changing the world for the better—recognize and reflect in their actions).

As Jennifer Uffalussy of The Guardian put it, “As disturbing as it may be sometimes to see a public figure physically transform before our eyes, it’s even more troubling to see how effortlessly we rush to say something about that transformation.” Not sure about the rest of you, but today I choose to support my girl Renee and applaud her gifts as an actress. I might even break out some of my Zellweger flicks. Jerry Maguire, anyone?

Choose Kind,
Leigh Ann

P.S. Why ARE WE so concerned with how people look? I submit and ask us to consider very seriously that, instead, we SHOULD be more focused on who the person is at the core and what the person contributes to our society. Sadly, as TIME Writer Brian Moylan pointed out, “There is a very real reason why Zellweger would want a whole new face: we were all incredibly mean to her old one.”

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Flickr/S Pakhrin

Mean People Need Jesus

“Plain and simple: Mean people need Jesus. They will be in my prayers tonight… 1 Peter 2:1-25” – TWEET BY CARRIE UNDERWOOD

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Flickr/mwittkopp89

What you’ve just read is the tweet that Carrie Underwood wrote in response to all those who crucified her acting in last week’s live Sound of Music production on NBC.

While I am in no way a holy roller, I give Ms. Underwood credit for her classy reply to all the unkind people out there taking shots at her. (Side note: I doubt many of these critics could ever dream of looking as gorgeous or singing as beautifully as Ms. Underwood, and they probably couldn’t hold a candle to her in the acting department either – you go, girl.)

The whole thing got me thinking: Why does our culture love to hurl insults? To try to tear down people when they’re on top? Why should someone who has a lot of blessings have to prepare to be the target of some form of abuse or cruelty? Or is this just part of the deal folks strike in exchange for fame, success and/or prosperity?

We were taught, back in the day, that, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” But Twitter and other social media sites have created forums where folks get online and, in a rather crude fashion, unleash on any topic that they wish.

To anyone tempted: Rather than trash-talking online, step away from your computer and spend time thinking of ways to improve yourself.  And to satisfy the itch to share ideas via the web, how about using your keyboard to touch (rather than stab) people’s hearts with positive, inspiring, supportive messages?

Wear the Cape, people. You are the building blocks of our future.